My son’s ex-boyfriend is emailing me at work the intimate details, pictures and videos of he and my son’s private adult lifestyle.

While this is somewhat offensive to me, I am more embarrassed for my son who has to hear about his ex contacting me in such a vulgar way. What can I do to end this type of harassment and be able to check my emails again without someone trying to shame me or my son. Thank you for your time.

Rita Risser Chai replies:

You may have a legal claim against your son’s ex, but more importantly, you need to immediately put an end to this because it could very well violate your employer’s internet use policy and get YOU into trouble. It should be fairly straight-forward for you to block his email from coming to you. If your system does not allow you to do that, then contact your IT department and ask them to block the sender. If for some reason IT is not responsive, you should go through HR. Good luck.

Posted 12-05-2017

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About the Author:

Rita M. Risser Chai is the founder of Fair Measures. An attorney in California for 20 years and now an attorney in Hawaii, she authored the Prentice Hall book, Stay Out of Court! The Manager’s Guide to Preventing Employee Lawsuits. She developed most of the curriculum used by Fair Measures, created the firm’s first website praised in HR Magazine, and wrote numerous articles on employment law including one on best practice harassment prevention training published in the magazine of the American Society for Training and Development (now ATD). She taught Law and Human Resources at the University of California, Santa Cruz, for eight years, and has presented four times at the annual conventions of the Hawaii Society of Human Resource Management.