Rita Risser Chai responds:
My thoughts are that your manager is a nosy busy-body. Also, your manager should not be your “friend” on Facebook and your privacy settings should not allow her to see who your friends are. Legally, it’s more complicated. If she didn’t approve of someone because of their race, religion, gender identity, or other protected characteristic, you might have a claim of discrimination, because most laws prohibit discrimination based on who you associate with. If she didn’t approve of the person for some other reason, then your legal rights depend on your state. In California, Colorado and New York, for example, you cannot be reprimanded for doing anything outside of work that is legal. Being friends with someone on Facebook is legal. But in most states, you could even be fired for something like this! So, I guess you’re lucky all you got was a write-up. Good luck.
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