My boss is in charge of my children’s youth group. Was it OK for him to send them a text explaining his job-related decision about me?

Steve Duggan replies:

This situation illustrates one of the many issues that confront managers who also have some kind of personal or social relationship with employees, or members of their family, outside of work. It is absolutely not OK for a manager to discuss employment decisions about an employee with anyone who does not have a need to know, including their adult or minor family members. If you can, I urge you to discuss this with your boss and respectfully let him know that he does not have your permission to do this, and that he should restrict his comments to your children to the group related matters. If you find it difficult to talk to him about this, you should consult with either your HR partner or one of his managers.

Posted 05-08-2018

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About the Author:

Steve Duggan graduated from the Law School at the University of Notre Dame while on active duty in the Air Force. He has extensive experience representing management litigating cases of wrongful termination, employment discrimination, and sexual harassment. Steve also has experience in all phases of administrative litigation of unfair labor practice charges, and class and individual complaints of employment discrimination. He has been an instructor of seminars for supervisors and managers on labor management relations and other personnel issues, and for lawyers in basic and advanced trial advocacy courses. Steve came on board with Fair Measures in 1998.